RED FLAGS OF ABUSE

 

Abusers often do not see them selves as being abusive. Also the abused do not often see early warning signs. Please take note of the following early signs as dictated by survivors of domestic violence. 

 

Someone who:

• Wants to move too quickly into the relationship.

• Does not honor your boundaries.

• Is excessively jealous and accuses you of having affairs.

• Wants to know where you are all of the time and frequently calls, emails and texts you throughout the day.

• Criticizes you or puts you down; most commonly tells you that you are "crazy," "stupid" and/or "fat," or that no one would ever want or love you.

• Says one thing and does another.

• Takes no responsibility for their behavior and blames others.

• Has a history of battering.

• Blames the entire failure of previous relationships on their partner; for example, "My ex was a total bitch."

• Grew up in an abusive or violent home.

• Insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family.

• Seems "too good to be true."

• Insists that you stop participating in leisure interests.

• Rages out of control and is impulsive.